We have a tendency to blame anything but ourselves when it comes to the position in which we find ourselves in life. We buy into this blaming because it lets us off the hook. It is easy to say it isn’t our fault. If only other things outside our control were different then our reality would be different.
The decisions you have made throughout your life have led you to where you are now. When you say that the circumstances of your life are in the hands of others, you are giving away your power.
If you don’t like your present reality you have to start making new decisions. You have got to start making intelligent decisions, you have got to become mindful. Don’t let yourself get dragged away in the stream of emotions, emotions will get you to take the easiest options and they are likely not to lead you to a life of fulfilment and empowerment.
Accepting full responsibility is the height of maturity. It is not what happens that determines the quality of your life, it is the action you take in your life. People who have similar happenings occur in their lives can have totally different outcomes, they simply respond to the happenings with different actions.
If things are going to move forward for your in your life you are responsible for making that happen. If you are waiting for someone or circumstances to make your life better you are negating your responsibility to yourself. Only you are responsible for moving your life forward.
Stop blaming your childhood, your parents, your opportunities or anything else you use as excuses to justify the quality of your life. Many people with a similar history to yours live a completely different life. External circumstances have not caused you to be where you are today, your choices in response to the circumstances have led you to where you are today.
Signs that you take responsibility for life:
1. Knowing who you want to be. You need to know the person that you wish to be and what is important to you, what you want from life and have a plan for success.
2. Not blaming others. When you blame others you are stating that you are incapable of rectifying the situation and it strips you of your power. When something goes wrong focus on the things over which you have control and take corrective action.
3. Not blaming yourself. You did the best with the resources you had in the past. Become more resourceful, grow as a person and you can make progress in your life.
4. Being honest with yourself. Give up all of the excuses. Are there other people of similar age, background, education, setbacks etc who live a more successful life.
5. Knowing that you have choices. There is always a choice.Successful people take responsibility for their choices and are willing to stand by the choices that are in their best interest, regardless of how unpopular they may be. Model the way a successful person would behave in a similar situation.