Anxiety about the future

There is an old saying that goes like this ” it won’t happen there is no need to worry and if it happens there is no point in worrying, you just have to live with it if it happens”, worry will not change what happens. Worry is the running of horror movies about the future in your mind. If you keep running those movies you get a false picture of life. Your picture of life is distorted. You tend to focus on the negative facts, you don’t see the full picture. You don’t focus on your coping skills, knowledge, etc you can use to deal with any eventuality if it happens and can even prevent those things happening.Read More→

Why we fail

What separates the people who are winning from those who fail to achieve their goals? It has nothing to do with luck or fate. It is the resistance one holds to one’s goal. People are not aware of the resistance because it is hidden in the subconscious mind.

You can want something but also want the complete opposite. For instance, you may want to lose weight but you also want what food does in meeting more pressing wants in your life. Resistance is what is pulling you in the opposite direction from where you want to go.

How to become a positive person

You can’t control the external world but you can control your inner world. What you create on the inside you accomplish on the outside. If you want your life you change, YOU must change. When you change your mindset your response to the external world changes and you get different results. When your thinking changes, your life changes. People who are positive and happy have certain habits that create their positive mindset.

Perspective is everything

There is an objective reality and a subjective reality. The objective reality is what is actually happening in our lives, the subjective reality is the way we perceive that reality. In other words, the way we perceptually and emotionally respond to the circumstances of our lives.

Be proactive.

Life happens, things go wrong, dreams gets shattered and we have to deal with the unexpected. Our response to such events can be either proactive or reactive. Being proactive means that we take responsibility for our lives. We realise that our actions make a difference regardless of the circumstances. We focus on what we can control rather than what we can’t control.

DON’T ignore stress

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Painful events are most likely to happen in life, our subjective response to the pain that causes suffering. When we don’t accept the pain, when we become angry, resentful and respond with similar emotions, we don’t allow the pain to run its course and we can get caught up in ongoing trauma. We can feel powerless to come to terms with setbacks and just throw in the towel, become hopeless and plunge into despair.

Who are your friends?

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. Jim Rohn. No matter what is your mindset, to begin with, you eventually become the sum of the 5 people you spend time with. You start to develop the same attitude to money, outlook on life, attitude to fidelity, start using the same language, start developing the same way of interacting with others, mind reading what others think, have a similar diet, etc.